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i would love to hear thoughts as i come from a christan household also i litterly just listen to T.S. and sabrina carpenter lmao

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I've been to 2 pride celebrations - only 2 since I'm not a fan of big crowds and lots of noise and people. Both times I got to march in the parade, as I do colorguard (flags, rifles, sabre). That was a ton of fun, and other than people not following basic parade etiquette (don't stand in the road to watch, get out of the way, don't cross in the middle of people doing stuff, etc), I had a wonderful time.

I think my biggest piece of advice is to just be you. Be proud of you, even if you don't yet know who you are fully. That's okay! It's okay to not be sure, or to realize you aren't what you thought you are. It's okay to not fit stereotypes or the "normal" for a gender identity, or a sexual or romantic orientation. It's okay to just say "I don't know". Don't listen to the people who are being rude and bigoted. Sometimes it's hate, and sometimes they genuinely don't understand or are afraid of new things. Just be you. And it's okay to ask for help, or to ask questions, just be mindful of how you ask. If you're confused, or don't understand, that's okay!

Honestly, I don't listen to a lot of "regular" music, let alone queer music. I listen to a lot of video game and anime soundtracks lol.

Is only LGBTQIA+ allowed here? I’n Neurodiverse and there’s no community for that ;-;

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So being neurodivergent doesn't mean you're LGBTQ+. You could always make a new community! There's a guide for how to make a fanclub. If you do, I'd definitely join, as I'm neurodiverent too.

Edit: there is a neurodivergent fanclub, but it looks to be long dead. Only 1 post, from 3 years ago.

I dont make much fuss about it, my family knows, and nothing about their view of me changed, which means they didn't look down on me, or smother me, which has shaped how I handle myself, I don't buy pride merch because the only people who's opinion on it I'd value don't care much beyond "huh, well like the old saying goes, parents and their children never stop teaching each other".

besides, I get love and hate for being me even without any knowledge of my orientation, ik its easier for me to be accepted but my family and I have bigger things to worry about than who we'd like to kiss, and thats how a lot of people around me view it too, aside from people my age ironically enough, they just HATE me....

Since this thread has come alive again, does anyone have advice on coming out to a christian family? Aside from my friends, only my little brother knows and he seems to care more about how much my aim sucks. I don't care much about the opinions of other family members, but I really love my parents, and I don't want to cut them off even if they end up homophobic or something :( My mom doesn't seem to be homophobic and even has gay friends, but she is religious, and aren't there some stories of people who were fine with gay friends but not gay children? Am I overthinking it? Also my aunt forced me into her religion and even made me take up some volunteer role, and it feels so awkward because I know I'm definitely quitting once I come out (Not like I should care about their opinion but still!! It's awkward!!)

My family was Christian in the sense that we only really went to church when I was little for my grandparents. Honestly? Sitting down with them and explaining how you feel is a good way to do it (but again do what you're comfy with). I will say that while yes, there's a known connection between very religious individuals and not accepting queer people, it's not everyone by far. Just because that happens to other people doesn't mean it'll happen to you. Just explaining everything could be a good way to do it. I'm again not religious and my family basically only went for my grandparents to make them happy, but I think that will be better than hints and subtle cues. BUT! Do what is safe for YOU. If you feel like it will cause you to not be safe, then don't do it. I would sit and think about what you're comfortable with.

I’ve been lurking around here for a while now but i’ll make my presence known since this thread is becoming more active now 🎉

Also, If you fear that your parents are homophobic then you can straight up ask them something like “what would you do if I was ___”. If they say something negative then you can play it off as a random thought or as a joke. I did this and successfully managed to get an answer from my mom. I now know what she thinks of it and whether she would’ve accepted me or not soo yeah
Coming out really is hard though xd

TYSM i think tho she would be susppicous as i have had a incident in the past and now all my sibblings think im gay i mean yet im still bi do i HAVE to really care what my parents think

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and if @rururis's idea is too obvious, just mention someone else! like maybe "i think my friend is gay and i don't know what to say to them" or something like that! much less suspicious and less obvious haha

@mudskipper17, the opinions of the people close to you can hurt. you don't have to care, but being hurt if they're homophobic is normal </3
i'm saying this because it will hurt if they're homophobic, no matter how much you try to tell yourself what they think doesn't matter. it's natural to want the people close to you to think well of you. if they like you less, that's not a you issue! that's a them issue :')
good luck out there, soldier !!

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thanks i def know that some of my best friends are act i bit gay but they might just act like that

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all I can say is, it feels good to lean into what people claim I am because most people do not expect you to fire back like I do.

"Hey you cigarette"

"yes honey bunches?"

or my personal favorite "for the last time, I am NOT going on a date with you"

Hi friends!

My name is Ollie, I use They/Them pronouns, and I'm happy to be here!

Can't wait to meet some friendly faces!

sup.

"to the closeted peeps, what do you hope for? support? to be out and feel safe one day? that being lgbtqia+ shouldn't matter, in a good way?"

I've been closeted mostly because of my mother, she has narcissistic traits and it's totally a tendency of hers to use things against me when I'm at my worst. Giving her any info about what's going on in my life is just pretty much giving her fuel to set me on fire later on :p I've thought about it many times and even though it really bothers me to be misgendered constantly it's not really worth it to uncloset before I'm independent. Sometimes it feels like my main life goal is to avoid her
The "you look like a boy" comments are always so funny tho 🤭 bet my parents wouldn't give so much gender-affirming comments if they actually knew

I have told my sister so far and she was accepting. She seems a bit confused by a lot of things in the LGBTQIA+ community and I really wish I was more patient and knowledgeable to explain things to her but y'know... I'm not the gender encyclopedia and google is right there. I also want to tell my brother, since he's gay, and a really easy-going person. But I've avoided using masc pronouns irl because I fear I/the people that know it might start using them in front of who's not supposed to know at the time so.. It just feels a little pointless? (I've used masc pronouns once in front of my conservative uncle and freaked out internally so bad :'D but it was because we were playing videogames and I was playing with a male character. He seemed to not notice but I was so nervous in the moment 😭) My brother, surprisingly, is the least sexist person from my family tho, and I can feel how my gender seems to not affect the way he perceives me. I'd of course rather not be misgendered, but being around him gives me much comfort nonetheless ^^
And then there's also my cousin that pulled me out of the closet. They just asked me "are you gay?" and I'm physically unable to lie and started laughing. I ended up just spilling it out, but it's probably the person I'll ever feel the most comfortable to personally talk about this because they're also trans :) later on they've asked me for advice on their gender identity (they're really young so of course it's confusing). This probably means my aunt knows I'm trans too, but she's cool I'm actually fine with that

And that last option of what to hope for sounds good enough actually. I've never really understood why people make such a fuss over it anyways

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boo (help why are ppl bullying me at my school for being friends with a lesbian, she's super chill ToT)
But ye I'm bi so hi XD

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Ugh, it's so annoying when people are like that... most of my favorite friendships stem from Lebsians, honestly. They tend to have a sense of humor that just makes me laugh every single time.

Thank you all for the advice!!! I'm planning to come out when I can be independent, which should be in 1-3 years...? Depends. I think I'll try to subtly get their opinion atm, but when I come out I'll try to explain things properly

Thanks everyone!!

Sup to all